When you can't make the right decision try this

Do you find you are often asking yourself “what should I be doing?”

I suggest you get quiet. Really, quiet and check in with yourself.

I invite you to stop everything else, take 3 deep breaths, and connect to a deeper part of yourself. Some people call this their gut, some call it their intuition, or inner voice, or inner knowing. 

Even if this idea seems out there to you, I’m guessing you’ve had that “gut feeling” of just knowing something at some point in your life. I strongly believe that this is an important tool in our decision making process. I believe this is where the magic of decision making lives.

By finding a quiet place, both externally and internally, we can really sit with the different options of a decision and determine how we feel about them, emotionally and physically.

If you’d like, try this now. The easiest way is by listening to the audio above. Alternatively, you can read the text below and take notes as you go.

Find a quiet place. Settle in and start to notice your breath. As you do, it might change and that’s okay. Allow it. Then when you are ready, change your breath in a way that you find supportive. Usually that means slowing down, but find what works for you. Now, notice your body. Exhale releasing what you’d like to let go of. Inhale, bringing the things you’d like in.

Now, think about the decision before you.

Consider the options you have around this decision.

As you think about each choice, notice your emotional feelings. Are you excited, scared, nervcited, something else? If the emotions are similar across the options, what is the intensity of each?

Then think about the possible choices and see what you feel in your body. You might notice you feel different things in the same part of your body, for example your stomach, as you think about each option. Or, you may feel one in your chest and another one in your hands.

Describe everything you can about the sensations. What is the intensity? The size? The shape? If it had a color, what would it be? If you touched it, what would the texture be?

Then, notice which of those feelings, both the emotional and the physical, feels the best? Which feel the worst?

Now, use this information to make your decision.

Go with you gut!